It's an old expression, that. Forgive and forget. But how many of us
can actually do it?
Here are some thoughts that might help you take that step...
1. Chronic anger is linked to decreased lung function, heart disease,
stroke and other ailments
2. The bitterness that comes from long-term anger can contribute to
depression
3. Forgiveness will decrease your anxiety, lower your blood pressure -
benefits which increase actually, as we get older.
I guess the big questions is who does it serve? If you're holding anger
against someone for a past wrong, then you need to understand that THEY
are still controlling YOU. And that's a position you want to remove
yourself from.
If your ex cheated on you and moved out with the
neighbour next door, would you still allow him or her the remotes to
your tv so that you had to watch whatever they decided on the other side
of the fence? Absolutely not. So it works the same with emotions.
Forgive all the 'thems' out there. Do whatever it takes to allow that.
Maybe you just have to say to yourself "ok, they're stupid so I have to
forgive them because they REALLY had a brain-fart" or "ok, I forgive
them and they don't know it, but I do. And I'm the bigger person because
I DID forgive them".
Then move on. Seriously... who wants to continue to rehash old stuff.
That means you don't get to talk about the old hurt anymore, you don't
get to even think about it. When it pops into your mind like a pink
elephant, remind yourself "It's ok... I forgave her for that already. I
wonder what I should wear tomorrow".
Give yourself a hug every time you do this :)
Gaylle &
Wendy
The Whispering Path
